So it’s January 7th. Once again. Now I’m sure to most of you that doesn’t mean anything special unless your Katie Couric, Nicholas Cage, or David Yost. Oh you know David, the nerdy Blue Power Ranger from the “Mighty Morphin Power Rangers” TV show. So it’s January 7th. Once again. Now I’m sure to most of you that doesn’t mean anything special unless your Katie Couric, Nicholas Cage, or David Yost. Oh you know David, the nerdy Blue Power Ranger from the “Mighty Morphin Power Rangers” TV show. Well January 7th may be their birthdays, but to Cheryl and I it’s our “first date” anniversary. Awww…Isn’t that cute? Well I think so and it doesn’t make me a punk either. So to commemorate our first date, every year we pilgrimage back to the place where it all began, Louise’s Trattoria on Melrose Blvd. Now that I think about it, we did skip last year’s anniversary. Cheryl and I had some major beef going on back then, but praise the Lord we hung in there nonetheless. So five out of six years, that ain’t too bad.
When Cheryl and I arrive at Louise’s, we always request “our table” and after the hostess hears our brief explanation as to why, our request is usually granted. Once we’re seated we get all nostalgic and think back on how our first date went back in ’97. What I remember the most is the fact that Cheryl drove. At the time my car was in the shop (again) and I was embarrassed. It’s hard to make a good first impression on a woman when your ride is in the shop, but at least I paid for dinner…because I’m not a scrub.
After six years of being with Cheryl it still amazes me how we went from guy/girl to guy/girl on first date to boyfriend/girlfriend to fiancé/fiancée to now husband/wife. Who would have ever thought it? Not me because prior to Cheryl, the shelf life of my dating relationships seemed to expire after the fourth month. Hey what can I say, that’s just how a playa was livin’ “back in the day”. So how did I go from the four month “hit it and quit it” program to a six year committed/monogamous relationship that ended up in marriage? A very content one might I add.
I ask because I’m a nocturnal person and on occasions I’m up late writing this column among other things and I’ll come across any one of those quasi dating/soft porn/reality TV shows like “Blind Date”, “The 5th Wheel”, “Extreme Dating”, “Change of Heart”, “elimiDATE”, “Shipmates” (the sleaziest), blah blah blah. Now I know I’ve been “out the game” for a minute…more like six, years but if only half of what I see on television is a true indication of what goes down on first dates in 2003, then I choose to stay out of the game permanently. Because when it comes to dating the bottom line is sex.
The only thing men want is sex. As for what the women want…I really couldn’t tell you and neither could they, more than likely. Just like you as a viewer, I’m always wondering, “Are these two knuckleheads going to bone or what?” Ahhh, “To bone, or not to bone – that is the question.” NO! That is the problem. Most dating is centered around sex. How fast can John get Mary drunk enough to get into her pants? For men and women, “the booty” and especially “the bomb ass booty” will cloud a couple’s emotional judgment every time.
How did Cheryl and I make it past our first date? During the Watchnight service of ’96 I made a promise to God that for the first time in my life I would stop trying to sleep with women, but get to know them first. Cheryl just happened to be the next woman that I met and you all know the rest of the story. Even though we slipped up in month number X and “did the do” I’m still a firm believer of abstinence until marriage. When it comes to abstinence, what most people fail to realize is that abstinence is not THE END but the means to THE END. THE END represents a more fulfilled, meaningful, successful, happier, long life, shared with a spouse and children within a faithfully committed marriage and all the positive fruits that come with it. So my advice to those of you that are still out there on the dating scene, “Try abstinence.” It worked for me, so I know it can work for you, too.