Spring is in the air, which also means that the marriage season is upon us. Marriage should be honored by all (Hebrews 13:4). This means that marriage is an honorable estate and should be welcomed and celebrated with love and admiration as its corner stone. “And this provides a good picture of how each husband is to treat his wife, loving himself in loving her, and how each wife is to honor her husband” (Ephesians 5:33 MSG). Everyone should honor and respect the institution of marriage.
To begin with, marriage should be honored by the husband and wife. When a man takes his lawful wife, to have and to hold, in sickness and in health, he makes the world better. Because they freely give themselves to each other, they both become better together. They are no longer two, but one. “For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will be one” (Genesis 2:24). When a man loves his wife, he loves himself, and together they are able to share this love with the world. This make for better relationships, neighborhoods, and communities.
Secondly, marriage should be honored by the husband’s love for his wife. I have heard it said that if a man loves his wife, she will naturally love him back. The bible says it like this, “Husband, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church – a love marked by giving, not getting. Christ’s love makes the church whole. His words evoke her beauty. Everything he does and says is designed to bring the best out of her, dressing her in dazzling white silk, radiant with holiness. And that is how husbands ought to love their wives. They’re really doing themselves a favor – since they’re already “one” in marriage (Ephesians 5:25-28). The true honor in marriage is love.
Finally, there are no words more powerful than that of a husband. A real husband will praise his wife because of the love he has for her in his heart. She can trust him because she is safe with him. She knows that his words are not motivated by an attempt to take advantage of her sexually or emotionally, because he has made the greatest commitment of all to her, marriage. This is the basic fundamental principle that all men must learn. The words of a husband to his wife are greater than the words of any other man. From the words of the marriage proposal to every word he speaks from then forward, his words matter.
Marriage is honorable in all things. This fundamental truth is truer now more than ever. Merely living together can never produce this oneness. This can only be achieved through the commitment of marriage. I am hopeful that every couple will find this oneness and that every marriage will be honorable.
Timothy Houston is an author, minister, and motivational speaker who is committed to guiding positive life changes in families and communities. To get a copy of his book, for questions, comments or more information, go to www.tlhouston.com.