Show yourself friendly

stockvault-man-in-helmet136334A man who has friends must show himself friendly (Proverbs 18:24). If I believe this proverb to be true, then I must ask myself the question, “Am I showing myself friendly?” The ability to be friendly is in our sphere of control, and it will have a direct impact on our sphere of influence. The ability for others to approach us can and will impact our relationships. Because of this, it is necessary that we address the subject of showing ourselves friendly.

What does it mean to show yourself friendly? One definition defines friendly as easy to meet or converse with or do business with. If you look further at some of the synonyms, you will find words like approachable, open, open-minded, amenable, accessible, and sociable. These are also the characteristics of those who people like taking to or doing business with. On the other hand, people whose emotions are unpredictable will be difficult to approach at times. Depending on the circumstance, they may appear unfriendly and people will shy away from them. Others watching this interaction may shy away as well. Showing yourself friendly is good for business and relationships.

The effect of being friendly can be positive and rewarding. When you are open, and friendly, it will be communicable. People will feed off your friendliness. You can transform your home or work environment by your demeanor. When it comes to environment, you can be a thermometer, responding to your environment, or you can be a thermostat, one who controls your environment. There is another upside to being friendly. When people feel they can talk to you, they are open to during business with you. They will also give you valuable feedback about how your business is doing. If you are looking for a mate, you are what you attract, so friendly, open-minded people will come into your circle. Potential suitors will approach you. They will see your smile and warmth as inviting and appealing. Good people will come into your sphere.

The flip side of this is that there is a downside to being unfriendly. People avoid those who appear unfriendly, unsociable, and close-minded. Businesses fail, and potential relationships are missed. I knew of someone who had a business who was not very friendly. Those who came in contact with them did not feel welcome. They told others about how unfriendly that business was and eventually it failed. This is probably true for relationships as well. If you are not nice, word will get around and people will avoid you. People make determinations about you without ever approaching you. Many businesses and relationships have failed because of the perception of unfriendliness.

Being friendly will carry you far in business and relationships, and it will help you present yourself as more sociable. If you are in business, you do not have the option of being hot and cold. One of the simplest things you can do to show yourself friendly is to smile. People who smile are perceived as welcoming and pleasant. Your smile will be your calling card to others that you are approachable, sociable, and showing yourself friendly.

Timothy Houston is an author, minister, and motivational speaker who is committed to guiding positive life changes in families and communities. For questions, comments or more information, go to

May 28, 2015
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