Man talk: Unconditional love leads to wholeness

By Timothy Houston

We are all flawed beings.

No matter how hard we try, there will be times that we fail. The problem is that no one wants their failures to show. To get to wholeness, we need a covering for our faults and failure, and that covering is love. “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of faults,” (1 Peter 4:8). Love brings about life. Love heals. It is patient and kind. Love is a prevailing force that endures all things without fail.

Unconditional love leads to wholeness.

First, unconditional love leads to wholeness because unconditional love is internal. It is an inward positive emotion that produces an outward positive response, and this positive response is the precursor to emotional healing. Only a person that is whole inwardly can be a covering for those who are hurting outwardly. Parents cover their children, and spouses cover each other with love. The greater the fault in the person, the greater amount of unrestricted love is needed to cover it. When this happens, the person can heal and find completeness under the cover, protections, and unconditional love of those who love them.

Secondly, unconditional love leads to wholeness because unconditional love is the higher standard. Real standards come from things outside of us. Because God is love, he commands us to love one another. This standard comes from him, and it is the basis for demonstrating that we know him. This is especially true for men and women. When a man or woman loves, protects, and preserves their family, they are operating in accordance to God’s standard. We are all better because of it, but this is the safe ground that a person needs to expose their hurt for healing. When a person knows that unconditional love is available, they no longer have to suffer in silence, and they become open to the possibility of becoming whole.

Finally, unconditional love leads to wholeness because unconditional love is the most powerful form of love. Unconditional love is not based solely on your goodness. It also loves you through your faults and failures. Real power is generated when things move from negative to positive. In a car battery, power is produced when electrons move from the negative terminal to the positive one. The same is true in life. When we, through unconditional love, empower others to move their live from negative to positive, they are able to produce the internal power needed for wholeness.

Unconditional love is not just an emotion, it is an environment. It serves as the positive, healthy surroundings we all need for permanent healing to take place. If our physical hospital must be clean and sterile of unhealthy contaminates, then our spiritual and emotional atmospheres must be healthy as well. Although you will never see this place with your physical eye, it exists in the form of unconditional love. Whether giving or receiving unconditional love, when it is present, emotional and spiritual wholeness becomes possible.

Timothy Houston is an author, minister, and motivational speaker who is committed to guiding positive life changes in families and communities. For questions, comments or more information, go to

August 18, 2016
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