It's Saturday night, and you're in the same place you were last Saturday night, and the one before that and the one before that. You're sitting on your sofa, a bag of chips in one hand and a remote in the other, looking for a movie you haven't already seen and failing at the task.
It's Saturday night, and you're in the same place you were last Saturday night, and the one before that and the one before that.
You're sitting on your sofa, a bag of chips in one hand and a remote in the other, looking for a movie you haven't already seen and failing at the task.
Why can't you meet a nice guy? Where is the man you've been promised, the one who's not a creeper or a playa? In the search for your Prince, you've kissed your share of frogs but if you read "Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much" by Finesse Mitchell, you can kiss those lonely Saturday nights goodbye.
So the last relationship you had didn't work out and you've examined the whole nasty thing with your girlfriends until you've dissected it to death. But why are you asking other women about men? What you need is a brother's advice on how to get along with a brother.
That's where Finesse Mitchell starts.
First of all, Mitchell says, you need to step back and find out who you are. You can't expect to find someone to love you if you can't love yourself. Take some time to work through your own issues and feelings, get a little independence (but not too much), realize that you can't change your past, and move on. Only then can you find the self-esteem to demand the respect you need from a man who can love you.
As for making The List that all the advice books tell you to make, Mitchell says it's fine to have a list, but be real about it. Don't ignore a brother who doesn't have a hundred percent of the items on your List. Flexibility is key, but keep in mind the items that are personally non-negotiable.
And then there's the most important tip of all: don't be afraid to approach a man. You won't appear desperate and you're not acting the fool. The worst that can happen is you'll hear "no", and you've heard "no" before, right? Mitchell points out that men want to meet women like you. When you swallow your fear, he says, "The number of cool guys you'll actually meet, as opposed to the zero that you are meeting right now, would surprise you."
Go to the library or bookstore, and you'll see an entire section on relationships and dating, shelves and shelves full. "Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much", though, is one that stands out.
Comic and author Finesse Mitchell tells it straight from the POV of a brother who's made mistakes but found love anyhow. This book is funny, extremely helpful, easy to understand (although it is mostly common sense), and - just like you want your romance to be - it winds up with a very fairy-tale-like happy ending.
If your Saturday nights are lonesome or if you're tired of getting nowhere at bars or clubs, get yourself a copy of "Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much". If you're looking for love, you're going to love this book.
"Your Girlfriends Only Know So Much" by Finesse Mitchell
c.2007, Simon Spotlight
$21.95 / $24.99 Canada