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Jul 22nd

The most important relationship youll have is with yourself

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Rashida McKenzie

Starting right now, get rid of all of those resolutions you have made, except one: Love yourself. If you haven't made this resolution by now, take the time to do so because by doing so, you not only make yourself a better person, but also the people around you. As Insight News introduces its new relationship section, I thought I should begin with the most important relationship that you'll ever have with anyone: yourself.

This is the time of year when you tend to be hardest on yourself. Your family might be at odds after spending so much time together, your wallet may be a little lighter because of the holiday spending and you may be a little heavier from the holiday eating. Whatever the case is, you have probably resolved to be better or do better than last year.

Illustration: Nataly Aks

Well, starting right now, get rid of all of those resolutions you have made, except one: Love yourself. If you haven't made this resolution by now, take the time to do so because by doing so, you not only make yourself a better person, but also the people around you.

If there is something that you don't like about yourself, don't beat yourself up about it; change. If you learn to love yourself just the way you are at this very moment in time, you will be able to appreciate the things that you want when they come.

A lot of people rush out looking for that special relationship with a significant other, or we try to find love in a child, or a friend or family member. But how can you learn to accept another person if you can't accept yourself, flaws and all?

As you begin to embrace your own strengths and weaknesses, the love you are looking for will gravitate towards you, your children will be happier, you will make more friends, you will have more money and you will take better care of yourself.

Self love is a powerful thing, because it creates change. True love comes with a sense of internal responsibility that holds you accountable for your actions.

Loving yourself means saying "no" to sex without protection, therefore decreasing the risk of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases in your community. Appreciating yourself means exercising and eating healthy, truly treating our body as a temple and eliminating the obesity epidemic that is affecting more African-Americans than ever. Loving yourself means living within your means rather than trying to keep up with the Joneses; you choose to build wealth, not only for yourself but for future generations.

As you begin to embrace your own strengths and weaknesses, the love you are looking for will gravitate towards you, your children will be happier, you will make more friends, you will have more money and you will take better care of yourself.

So whether you are reading this from your cozy couch, a cold stoop or jail cell, take this moment to value yourself.

While you are taking a moment, think about all the mistakes you have made up until this point and embrace them. It is a hard concept, but imagine what life would be like without them; probably not much of an experience, right?

Once you have accepted them, don't allow people to hold you to that old you; grow into the person you were destined to become. We have all been dealt different hands in life, so be proud of it; because the key is, as soon as you start treating yourself as though you come from an ancestral background of kings and queens, other people will follow suit.
 

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