First, a man that is in tune with you will be sensitive to the changes that take place in your environment. Change is a part of spiritual, emotional, and natural development. In nature, once you plant a seed, it goes through various stages of change. When the seed is below ground, it needs covering, and when it is above ground it needs support. Every significant change that takes place begins in the heart of the earth. You know you have a good man when he is so tuned into you that the changes that take place in your spirit reaches his heart and motivates him to support you through your change.
Next, a man that is in tune with you will give you what you need to be safe and secure. The natural elements can be harsh and severe. The seed must remain in the heart of the soil where it can be protected. There, the seed is sheltered. Good men carry those they love in their heart, protecting and providing for them. This is a requirement from God. "If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever" (I Timothy 5:8). You know you have man that is in tune with you when he is sensitive enough to you to know what you need to be so safe. This safety is demonstrated in the freedom to be yourself. This is true for both the man and the woman. Safety and security is an integral part of any relationship.
Finally, a man that is in tune with you will provide you what you need to feel supported. Feeling supported is different from being supported. Feelings are supported by closeness. He is like the soil that supports and nourishes the plant once it has blossomed. Once the plant is exposed, it depends on the soil for balance and stability. A man that is in tune with you is there through the ups and downs. He is not imitated by your success. On the contrary, he welcomes and supports it.
Is he in tune with the spirit of who you are? Is he only aware of his own needs? A man that is sensitive to you must be perceptive enough to be in tune with your needs. Your need for support, protection, and acceptance will be paramount in his heart. This man is able to change when you change. He laughs when you laugh, sings when you sing, and cries when you cry. He understands your boundaries and respects them. This man is thoughtful enough to really and truly be in tune to the spirit of who you are.
Timothy Houston is an author, minister, and motivational speaker who is committed to guiding positive life changes in families and communities. For questions, comments or more information, go to www.tlhouston.com.